Monday, December 14, 2009

Our Family Holiday Newsletter for 2009

Ahhhh… it’s 2009, and life just gets more and more interesting!

First, the family update, startin
g with the oldest...

Serena (23) graduated from NC State University last December, and is now a resident of Galveston, Texas! She moved
there in August to begin a 5-year PhD program at the University of Texas Medical Branch. It was her first cross-country move, and Cassie helped by driving out with her and helping her get settled in. She is finishing up her first semester this month, and is enjoying the program and Texas! In addition to her schoolwork, she is coaching at a local gymnastics training center, Acrofit Gymnastics. It’s the gym that used to be owned and run by Bela Karolyi (Mary Lou Retton’s coach). She came home for Thanksgiving to be in her best friend’s wedding, and will be coming back in 3 weeks to spend the Christmas holiday with us as well.

Cassie (22) is still working at Banana Republic at Southpoint Mall in Durham, but has moved to a great apartment in Cary and has a wonderful new roommate, Kristen. She recently bought a new (to her) car—finally replacing her Mitsubishi, which has been falling apart over the last 6-9 months! She still helps plan the store’s fashion shows, which raise money for the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society.

Sam (21) graduated from Holly Springs High School in January of 2008, and actually received his diploma at the school’s first graduation in June. There was a BIG party in Holly Springs after he walked across that stage!! J Shortly thereafter, he moved out into a room of his own in Fuquay-Varina and seemed to enjoy living on his own. Then his car died, and things weren’t going so well at work, so he decided to move to Massachusetts and live with his mom’s sister and his cousins for a while. He is still there, trying to find work and save enough money to move back to Carolina. Hopefully we’ll see him again (if only for a visit) sometime in 2010.

Danny is finishing high school in Florida with his mother. We had a great summer with him here. He made a great impression on all our friends, who said "he is turning into a great young man!" He is a senior this year and really getting psyched up for graduation. He has not decided what he will do after graduation, but college is definitely on his long-range “to-do” list. We aren’t sure if we’ll see him at Christmas, but we are pretty sure he intends to spend next summer with us.

Kennedy is officially a sixth grader this year and still homeschooling. She participates in an amazing homeschool co-op every Tuesday that has covered all the systems of the human body, a 3-week unit on archaeology, a hands-on unit on ecosystems, geography units on different countries, Greek and Roman mythology, and much more. Kennedy was also elected to be the President of the Junior Historians Club--a responsibility that she is taking VERY seriously!

In addition to that, Kennedy now attends Jordan Lake Sudbury School in Cary part-time, which provides more social learning opportunities and plenty of time to explore new learning options. As part of her school activities, Kennedy has just begun working as a mother’s helper for a local family who has 18-month old triplets! She works every Monday morning for 3-4 hours, and is absolutely CRAZY about it!

Kennedy bridged to Cadet Girl Scouts this year, and returned to competitive soccer by trying out for and landing a spot on a classic girls team that practices in Raleigh three times per week! The Fall outdoor season is over, but her team finished first in their U11 division and is now playing an indoor schedule to keep their feet on the ball and stay sharp. Kennedy has continued to perform in Stars Youth Theater here in town, but will be taking a break from that this spring. Hip hop dance is the newest activity, which she LOVES, and she is hoping to take clogging lessons as soon as our budget will allow it. Last summer, Kennedy entered a Tween Model contest in Apex, and thanks to the support of many friends and family, she won a full photo shoot from the photography studio who sponsored the contest! Many of you remember the photos of the shoot on Facebook, but the actual photos from the shoot were AMAZING! We've included one of the best here so you can see it.

Everyone else in the Fowle household is doing well. Mark was laid off from his IT Manager position at the end of August and is still looking for a good, new position. He’s been on many interviews, but the market is saturated with people like him who are looking for jobs, and the search is frustrating at times. Despite the focus on job-hunting, he still remains active with the Holly Springs Masonic Lodge and was recently elected the lodge's chaplain for 2010.

Lynn’s editing business from India dropped to almost nothing in May, but she’s slowly finding new clients while continuing to work on projects that will reap rewards later down the road when they are published.
She is very active in the homeschool co-op and helps the Sudbury School with marketing and enrollment. She still enjoys scrapbooking, but hasn’t been able to get much done this year. Hopefully that will change once we are both gainfully employed again.

Merry Christmas to all our friends and family, and may 2010 bring renewal and hope for all of us!

~ Lynanne,
Mark, and the kids

Thursday, July 9, 2009

Summer School...

So much for a long, lazy summer. :)

Not that I'm upset in the least, but I think its interesting that my stepson, Danny, arrived from Florida 3 weeks ago with a request for me to teach him Algebra II (okay, you can stop laughing now) and help him complete American History after failing it the first time... I'd like to think my homeschooling prowess has reached a wide audience, but I know in reality that it's simply because my practical stepson merely wants to get a headstart on next year (and avoid the American History teacher, whom he professes to dislike intensely) and he knows I'm homeschooling Kennedy -- thus, instant summer school options!

In typical teenage fashion, however, Daniel has been less than enthusiastic about opening his Algebra II book (which I so magnanimously drove to North Raleigh to buy for him after he indicated his interest in completing a whole course over the summer!). Neither is he very excited about reading, even though his book is ironically titled "My Brother Sam is Dead." :)

I spent all this week trying to figure out what I can do to inspire him to stick to his goal, and I realized today that I don't have to do anything! :) His task is simple: 1) complete the Algebra II textbook, and 2) read 6 novels that cover a specific period of American History and write a one-page report about what he learned -- all by August 15th. So far, after 3 weeks, he's read two chapters of his novel, and completed 3 out of 12 chapters of Algebra. So, in a renewed spirit of "it's not my problem," I reminded him this morning that he has 5 weeks left to finish both courses, and that I will remind him gently every day, but if he doesn't complete, he just has to take those courses at school in the Fall! The bottom line is he'll be stuck in school all day -- something he is trying to avoid.

Well, if he wants to avoid that enough, he'll get the job done... if not, he'll have wasted an opportunity, but all it cost me was $20 for the Algebra textbook (and a few moments of sorrow for all that wasted opportunity).

Did I tell you that my oldest daughter is entering a PhD program this Fall??! :)

Wednesday, July 8, 2009

Flat Travelers!

Well, even though we've been on summer break for a few weeks, we've discovered a new activity that runs the risk of being addicting if we're not careful! It's called "Flat Travelers," and it's based on the main character in the Flat Stanley books. In the books, Stanley is flattened by a bulletin board, and his parents send him in an envelope to California to spend time with friends.

The concept has been embraced by the educational community in a variety of ways. Many elementary classrooms use the concept to add a spark creativity to penpal activities. For homeschoolers, the idea is the same, but some of us have incorporated an exploration of geography and world culture into the exercise.

To begin with, you have to decide whether or not to make and send a flat traveler, or to host one. We decided to do both (although we waited for our first traveler to arrive here so we could see what we needed to create for our travelers).

The process is pretty simple. If you are sending one out, you have to make one first! You create a person or thing on paper -- you can use coloring book characters, or sketch your own. Our first traveler was a North Carolina Red Wolf, because it symbolizes our state and Kennedy's favorite college (Go Pack!). Then we glued it to posterboard, cut around it, and then laminated it. It was small enough to go in some old Christmas card envelopes we had left over, and we included a "passport" -- a folded sheet of paper that included something about our family, and space for our host family to write about what they do with our flat traveler once it arrives at their house. We put all that in the envelope and shipped it out to Houston, Texas! We also sent out a "Gregg" (from the Wimpy Kid books) flat traveler to Utah!

If you are hosting, you simply tell someone who has a traveler to send that you are willing to host, and then wait for your visitor to arrive! We are currently hosting "Flat Fairy" and "Skinny Sarah," both of whom were hand-drawn. They made us anxious to create a new one of our own, instead of printing pictures off the computer like we did the first time! :)

We have taken Flat Fairy and Skinny Sarah with us to a number of events. Flat Fairy went with us to Sam's graduation and hip-hop class, helped us with our yard sale, and went with Kennedy when she dog-sat for a week. Then Skinny Sarah arrived. Both Flat Fairy and Skinny Sarah have gone to the pool with us, attended two Fourth of July parties, and accompanied us to see "Ice Age: Dawn of the Dinosaurs." We've been snapping pics of them at each event that we'll share with their families when we get ready to ship them home.

I'm hoping we can take them both with us on a tour of Raleigh next week -- to the state house, state legislature building, and the Museum of Natural History at the very least, maybe even Blair House (governor's residence), the RBC Center and Carter-Finley Stadium, and the bell tower at NC State. Then we'll package them up, add their pictures, some North Carolina brochures, and some post cards, and send them back home.

All this is practice for our project that will start in August, where we'll be sending a flat traveler or two on a cross-country journey. We're hoping that over the course of this next academic year, we'll watch our travelers visit all 50 states. We'll post their progress on a blog of some kind -- either this one or one that Kennedy creates for that express purpose -- and gather the materials from each state that the host families send to us. It should be a GREAT activity with lots of learning potential -- and isn't that what homeschooling is all about?! :)

Monday, June 8, 2009

A Joke!

Okay, in light of last week's blog posting, I'd like to share a couple of jokes with you that captured the fun side of homeschooling:

#1: Socialization seems to be the big issue among homeschool critics. One mom, when asked "What about socialization?" always answers with "I know... it's a big problem for us, but we're trying to cut back!"
:)

#2: My daughter came home from a play date the other day with a former classmate who is still going to public school. Obviously the socialization issue was asked of her (she's 10, mind you) while she was there, because when she came home, her first question of me was "Mom, are we socialists?" I was quite taken aback, but after a few questions, I realized that when she was asked about how we were dealing with "socialization," she incorrectly thought they were asking about "socialism." Too funny!

#3: A good friend sent me this:

One day, a homeschooled boy heard his mom talking to someone in the kitchen. He went in to see who was visiting, and found his mother grumbling and muttering to herself in frustration. He asked, "Mom, what are you doing?" Her answer was, "I'm having a parent-teacher conference." :)

Have a great week!
~Lynanne

Thursday, June 4, 2009

Ten Reasons to Homeschool

I read a very disturbing blog posting this morning called "The Case Against Homeschooling," which fortunately was rather transparent and poorly stated, but unfortunately was widely read and very typical of those who disagree with homeschooling for all the wrong reasons.

The blog itself can be found at http://teacherrevised.org/2009/05/30/the-case-against-homeschooling/. You may check it out so you have a frame of reference, if you wish.

I am using this post to answer each of Ms. Sciacca's points. It is obvious to those who are homeschooling for educational reasons that she is completely clueless about why most people pull their kids from school -- or homeschool from the beginning. In our broken public school system (which has become focused on crowd control and "managing" the social issues created by forcing together children from different walks of life to learn the same way at the same time), parents are told that they do not know what their children need, are disrespected by the educational establishment at almost every turn, and are unable to advocate for their child(ren). When you add the increasing problem of bullying, gangs, the movement away from real teaching to concentrate on preparing children for testing, and the basic disrespect for authority that is rampant in most public school classrooms, and you have a recipe for failure that no one is dealing with.

Those of us who are able to teach our children at home, and are willing to make the financial and logistical sacrifices to do so, are making sure our children are raised to be problem-solvers and inventors instead of mindless clones who can walk silently in a straight line and ace a multiple-choice test. Last time I checked, workplace productivity in the real world was measured by the practice of creativity and deductive reasoning, not whether or not you used a Number 2 pencil and followed directions to the letter!

Here are my responses to Ms. Sciacca's blog post:

10. Whether or not some college students out there use "homeschooling" as an insult when tormenting other students who don't seem "cool" to them is more a measure of their immaturity and poor upbringing than any short-comings on the part of the homeschooled student. It is behavior like this that goes unchecked in public school classrooms and playgrounds, and I would much rather my child be labeled as a "homeschooler" than learn how to be insulting and antagonistic so she can be "cool." By the time she's in college, she will be better equipped to handle people like that, and she will be uninterested in hanging out with kids who behave that way in the first place.

9. Contrary to Ms. Sciacca's comment that "a student's classroom shouldn't be where they eat Fruit Loops and meatloaf," I disagree in principle. I believe that a student's classroom should be the entire world, and if that means they read the morning paper while they eat breakfast, or discuss their current lapbook project over dinner, then that's perfectly acceptable -- even encouraged -- at my house. We have converted our den into what we call "the class room," yet most of our work is done at the coffee table in the living room or at our kitchen table. We love the flexibility of having a snack while we're working on a project, or incorporating a Discovery channel program into what we're doing, and that requires the ability to move around and use different environments at different times of the day. Although we rarely eat Fruit Loops, my daughter loves helping me cook and bake, and that has the same educational value as long division or diagramming sentences. And am I supposed to teach her math and life skills only from a book at a desk, or is it possible that the hands-on approach to measurement and learning to cook has more value than reading about it?

8. Yes, homeschooling is very selfish. As a mother, my job is to make sure that at the end of 18 years, my daughter is mature and self-sufficient enough to enter the adult world and make her own choices. As an educated adult, I have determined after much soul-searching, research, and experience, that the North Carolina school system offers nothing of value to my daughter after the 4th grade, and actually contributed to a stress-induced anxiety disorder that our family has successfully resolved after 6 months of homeschooling. The students that my daughter was supposed to be influencing -- from lower socioeconomic environments and less-educated families -- bullied her, openly defied school rules, convinced her that "behaving" smart was not cool, and actively slowed the educational process down by demanding the constant attention of the teacher to keep them under control. The only influencing being done here was BY those less fortunate, and my daughter was never able to compete with the aura of negativism that existed in her public school classroom.

In addition, Ms. Sciacca's assertion that the pool of homeschoolers is increasingly wealthy and well-educated families is not accurate, but even if it was, wouldn't that be an indication that those same people are realizing that their children aren't getting an adequate education in public schools? And that they understand that they are educated enough to provide more opportunity for education and exploration of the world around them than the crowd control-focused teachers in the beleaguered public system? Isn't it our JOB to protect our children and point them in the right direction? If that makes me selfish, than I'm proud to be so!

7. I am not Christian, but I am not a nonbeliever, either. To say that "God hates homeschooling" is just a bold attempt to incite a reaction. Although many Christians do homeschool, it's rarely in reaction to the lack of prayer in schools or the fact that we don't teach the Bible there. Families have successfully transferred their moral code to their children outside of the school environment for centuries. What HAS changed has been the transference of the religious and political debates of our time to the playgrounds and classrooms as children regurgitate what they hear their parents say around the dinner table or with friends/family. In the old days, adults did not talk about religion or politics around children because they knew that young minds weren't able to digest the issues. Now, it's all around us (thanks, CNN) and it isnow acceptable to tell our children to go to school and tell all their friends who to vote for and that they'll go to hell if they don't go to church. We shouldn't be promoting religious and political debate among our children -- all they understand is the emotion behind it, which is much easier to fling at other children and much more injurious than the actual information the children hear. Funny enough, we're involved with two homeschool co-ops, with families of a variety of religious and political backgrounds, and religion and politics have never come up in conversation among the parents, let alone among our kids -- those things are handled as private family matters, as they should be.

6. To think that homeschooling parents are "arrogant" because they assume they can teach their children better than a teacher with two masters degrees is simply a sign of an insecure public school teacher. First, for a teacher to think it's his or her JOB to "instruct" and her students' JOB to sit still and soak in her incredible knowledge is clearly still bound by outdated practice in teaching and learning. The movement AWAY from "teachers impart, students drink in information" is well underway, and most colleges are embracing the notion that true learning comes from active student exploration rather than being led to knowledge by an omniscient, all-knowing adult. Second, to think that a double major in English and education, two masters degrees, student-teaching, and years in the classroom somehow automatically makes you a great teacher is truly an arrogant assumption. Third, in my 16 years of dealing with public school staff, none of the guidance counselors I dealt with had any clue how to counsel students -- especially on college decisions. Basically, there is no information a teacher has that a creative, intelligent parent can't find with some sleuthing, and one of the reasons most homeschooled children are so bright is that they've learned how to find information by themselves with the "guidance" of their parents rather than simply being "told" about it.

5. "As a teacher, homeschooling kind of pisses me off." That pretty much sums up the reason she wrote this entire list in the first place. It's easier to attack something that threatens you than to find out why it's happening and work out a constructive way to reverse it (like improving the educational system to meet the needs of bright, motivated children).

4. Racism and intolerance is bred within families who start out racist and intolerant -- it doesn't develop without a seed, and it's absurd to think that the public school classroom is the only remedy. The school I pulled my daughter out of was 70% Caucasian, 25% African-American, and 5% Hispanic. There were a few adopted Russian and Asian kids, but primarily it was suburban, white, middle class students. My homeschool co-ops include Vietnamese, Korean, Native American, African-American, Eastern European, Japanese, Middle Eastern, Hispanic, and Caucasian families, to name a few. We have over a dozen religious faiths represented and quite a variety of family types. My daughter's exposure to different socio-economic and cultural influences has greatly increased since she started homeschooling, so there's no risk of intolerance or racism in our household (not that there ever was in the first place!).

3. "Socialization" is the great fallacy of homeschool critics. They spout off about how dangerous the lack of socialization is -- again, as if the public school environment is the only place on the planet where children learn to get along with one another. Between homeschool co-ops, sports teams, art classes, drama camps, family get-togethers, scouting programs, and playing with their friends in the neighborhood, children get plenty of time with other children during the course of a week. Homeschooled children do not learn in a vacuum, and their parents have them out and about in the world far more often than children who are juggling the mandated 6.5 hours of school plus homework every night.

2. The arrogance issue again -- Ms. Sciacca asserts that homeschooling parents are arrogant because our wealth and education tends to make us risk-takers. First, I'm still looking for all my wealth. After paying education taxes to the county and state, and then paying for all the resources for my daughter's education on top of that, I'm happy to hear that I'm wealthy. If Ms. Sciacca knows where my wealth is hiding, I'd really like to hear from her! Second, if I'm arrogant because I'm well-educated, then "guilty as charged." I am proud of the fact that I constantly read and explore my world, even though my formal schooling is behind me. I happen to think that makes me a better person!

1. Have you ever heard the saying... "Geek as a child, successful professional as an adult"? How many of us have gone to our high school or college reunions to discover that the geekiest of our class have turned out to be the most successful, and the coolest kids turned out to struggle the most? Ms. Sciacca says "have you met someone homeschooled? Not to hate, but they do tend to be pretty geeky." She sounds just like the college kids she highlights in #10, and definitely nothing like what I want my daughter to turn out like. I've met many homeschooled kids this year, and very few are geeky... however, I'd rather have a geeky child who isn't ridiculed by people like Ms. Sciacca and grows up to create or invent something that saves society from people like her.

Nuff said...! :)

Friday, May 8, 2009

Wow! I can't believe it's been over 6 months since I've posted on this blog! I really need to get back at it, especially now that Kennedy is officially homeschooling. Yep, we pulled her out in November on a trial basis during track-out, and it was obvious that learning outside of the traditional classroom was the fix for most of our school issues.

So, we leapt off the cliff of learning at home, with a bright kid with a bad attitude about school. It took several months before Kennedy was asking to learn specific things and/or open to learning opportunities that I suggested. We joined a homeschool co-op with our friends Miss Jill, Marissa, and Noah, and quickly began to look forward to their weekly meetings. I questioned our decision many times, but our co-op friends kept me sane and Kennedy slowly "deschooled." I can honestly say that despite all my misgivings and the huge disparity between our enthusiasm levels at the beginning, I have learned a great deal about my daughter over the last 6+ months, and we're now in a place where I can tailor what we do to her learning style and enthusiasm levels instead of mine -- i.e., (and this is a big one for me) not go too "over the top" on activities that she's not really into. That flexibility is worth its weight in gold, and knowing that her learning style is different than mine makes it so much easier to get through the things that I know she needs while making sure that she explores the things she is "into" right now as well!

So, I've posted a photo of her and her friend, Kaya (on the left), at a recent luau event in our neighborhood. Kennedy is happy, enjoying life and learning, and aside from a little boredom now and then (a product of being the only child at home right now), she is doing great! We've already picked out a critical thinking program for her to work on over the summer and we've selected our curriculum for next year. We'll be using a computer-based middle school curriculum for math and science, and a California standards-based unit study program for English, social studies, and science. Kennedy has tested out of 6th grade math, so we have found a math club in the area that is run by a PhD that offers projects on upper-level math concepts such as modeling and basic computer programming. Our co-op is taking a step up next year, as well, and planning the material we want to cover for a whole semester at a time. It will include a writing component, science and social studies topics, and (I'm hoping) a critical thinking program where the kids can begin to analyze and think about the things they're learning.

Extracurricular, you ask? She's staying involved in theater classes (playing a Simon Cowell-type character in a play next week, actually), trying out again for challenge soccer, and joining a children's chorus here in Holly Springs. This summer she's taking a comedy improv camp and maybe even cooking and cake decorating classes for kids. AND, I almost forgot -- she starts her electric guitar lessons again after her play is over next week. :)

Gotta go... but now that we're through the rough part of figuring out where we're going, it will be easier to find the time to write about our journey. :)